Self Esteem: Is It Important to You?

datePosted on 18:34, September 30th, 2009 by Small Town Mommy

This is a compensated review from BlogHer and Dove Self-Esteem.

If you have spent any time at all reading Small Town Mommy, you probably know that I have 2 daughters (it’s not like I don’t brag about them… a lot). Since I have 2 young ladies, girls’ self-esteem is very important to me. I am always looking for ways to boost the self-esteem of my 2 loves. For Joanna, it isn’t a big issue. She is pretty sure that she is all that and if you don’t think so, you must be wrong. Libby takes criticism much more personally. When she was in second grade, she ended up in a class with a number of mean girls. Because she is so sensitive, these girls did a number on her self-esteem. These problems continued in 3rd grade. While all the mean girls had been scattered through different classes, she had a very mean girl on her bus who was dedicated to making her feel badly about herself.

These experiences ended up lowering Libby’s self-esteem. As a mom, this was tough to see. Like many moms, I think my kids are the best thing ever. How could Libby not see how fabulous she actually is? I didn’t know what to do. After doing a lot of research, I discovered a number of ways to work with Libby to increase her self-esteem. We discovered some things she did really well. One of the biggest changes I made was to simply increase the number of times I hugged her and told her I loved her. I was surprised by how much that helped.

Dove is working to help girls to increase their self-esteem. You remember Dove. The company received a lot of attention a few years ago, for using real women in their advertising instead of the size 0 models that are typically used to promote beauty products. Dove has started a new fund that is committed to helping girls build positive self-esteem and a healthy body image. Every time you buy a Dove product, you help them to provide self-esteem building workshops. They are currently running a program where purchasers can enter their UPC code at and Dove will donate $1 to self esteem programming through its partners — Girls Scouts, Boys & Girls Clubs of America and Girls, Inc. (as a Girl Scout Leader for both kids, I am a big supporter of the Girl Scouts (remember the cookies last year, you didn’t buy any from my girls. Now here is another chance to support the Girl Scouts.  I’m just sayin’).

Dove offers all kinds of different tools through its Facebook page.  Parents, teachers, professionals and others can find ways to help girls to increase their self-esteem. Libby is doing great with her self-esteem, but I am constantly watching her. If I feel that she is losing confidence in her self, I want to be able to step in early before she starts feeling really badly about herself.

When I was younger, self-esteem was an issue for me too.  Every day, I see more and more of myself in Libby (not sure if that is a good thing).  Did you have an issue with self-esteem? Or were you one of those confident kids who recognizes how fabulous she actually is? Share your thoughts on self-esteem with me in the comments below.  After you are done commenting, check out some of the other BlogHers’ thoughts on self esteem: Read more self-esteem stories from BlogHer reviewers at the roundup page.

Please link to the official site for more information: Dove’s official site.

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laurie mayper on October 6th, 2009 at 10:35 am
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Enjoyed the blog. It is SO important, not only in childhood, but through the teen and adult years, to have confidence, not swayed by criticism or praise of others, but from inside.

Elle on October 6th, 2009 at 10:55 am
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Some girls can be so cruel. Sissy had some mean girl issues last year, but thank goodness she had an awesome teacher that recognized the issue and spoke to the principal, the school counselor and even the girls parents. It really helped a lot. It’s so true that sometimes they don’t see how wonderful they are. But sometimes I see the same issues in myself. You know,the “I should lose weight” “I should be a better housekeeper” “I should be able to do ……. better.” I want my girls to be proud and confident women.

mrsbear on October 6th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
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Both my girls have had self-esteem issues. My eleven year old probably worse than her sister. It’s difficult to overcome, especially when they’re constantly being bombarded by images of unrealistically skinny women as the standard of beauty. It’s nice to see someone trying to change the way girls think about what real women should look like. Great post.

Jen on October 6th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
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It’s no consolation that the mean girls probably have considerably lower self esteem then the girls they pick on, but is probably the case. My daughter waffles about her self esteem. Some days she thinks she is all that and a bag a Cheetos and others she thinks that no one in the world likes her or thinks she is good enough. I do what you do and hug her a lot and give her positive reinforcement when she does a good job, which tends to be frequently since she is so brite. I wish Dove had that program when I was a kid. Great post.

Judy Brown on October 8th, 2009 at 6:17 am
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I am going out to buy more Dove soap, today! I have watched their segments about this program and am glad to read what you think.

betchai on October 10th, 2009 at 2:57 pm
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i was terribly shy when i was younger too, i was always conscious of how i looked and would not go to school if i think i did not look good enough :( actually, it was because i had acne, and when i had huge acne on my face, some of my classmates would sing “rodolfa the red nose ranger” they think it was fun but it was hurting me, so i chose to not come to school whenever i had those huge acne since i did not want to hear anyone singing my pimples! it may sound narrow, but for me then, it was a huge problem!